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I Wanna Be Like…Mommy

Recently, I watched a clip from when Janelle Monae was on The Queen Latifa Show. It was beautiful to see her surprise her biggest fan on the show. What affected me most was Janelle being overcome with emotion at the idea that “little black girls would want to look like me”. Are you kidding me? There wasn’t a dry eye in the house.
My thoughts went to my daughter and who she looked up to and emulated as a child. My baby was a child of the ’90s/ ’00s and was a huge fan of Taina, Hillary Duff, Raven-Symoné and lots of other age-appropriate things. She wanted to be a Cheetah Girl and loved reading Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants..
But what about her personality? Her morals? What was/ is she presenting to the world? Where is she getting those things from? Oh shit! I should be her example for those things. I freaked out thinking back on all the times that I’m sure I got it all wrong; this whole mom thing. Deep breath…in through the nose, out through the mouth.
After I calmed down, I realized a few things. I did my best. I was a mom at 14 so I know I stumbled along the way but I had my grandmother, mom and aunts to help guide me. I was there. I made mistakes but I was there; volunteering at school, helping her through homework and heartbreak. I taught her to love her light-brown skin as part of the beautiful spectrum of little black girls.

I taught her to love her natural hair in all its wooly beauty. She’s growing dreads right now.
I taught her to love

and value herself.

And you know what?
My little black girl loves music, singing and dancing…just like me.

My little black girl loves books…just like me.
When I asked friends and family who know us both they say that my little black girl is sweet, funny, articulate, kind, giving and gorgeous…just like me.
My little black girl (although she’s a woman now) likes Beyoncé, Erykah Badu and Jill Scott but regardless of all the other influences, she’s always wanted to be like…Mommy.



A Month Of Blessings – Day 9

“Not flesh of my flesh, nor bone of my bone. Nevertheless, still my own.” – Unknown

These are my children. Though birthed by my wife, they are mine. I couldn’t love them more if I had given them life. They are wonderful and loving and I am blessed to have them in my life. Plus, they have given me grandbabies! I am so grateful for my family.

#1. Veronica "Ronnie"-the boss
#2. Michelle-the shy adventurer
Jay-the boy
Megan "Keely"-The fashionista
Da'Liyah, Dez Jr. & De'Zha-Ronnie's babies
Ashley-in actuality, our niece but she might as well belong to Michelle
Jayden-Jay's baby

Birthday & Mother’s Day Weekend

Jayden turned 7 on May 8th & her Autie Meggie turned 25 on May 10th.

These two lovelies had birthdays! Our daughter Megan and granddaughter Jayden.

Granny J & Jayden

My BugABoo & I at her b-day shindig.


Super models!

Me & my gorgeous mother

Happy Mother’s Day to this gorgeous woman.  I am so grateful that God chose her as the vessel to bring me life. She is my best friend, a great hugger and…let’s just say I could go on forever about my Mommy.

My wife & best friend

Happy Mother’s Day to my wife and bestie. Parenting with you is AWESOME!

We had our annual Mother’s Day brunch at the La Quinta Inn & Suites in Tacoma. Its always a good time.


3 generations of love




Happy Mother’s Day!

Me and my favorite girl!
Me and my favorite girl!

I am so thankful for my mother! Tomi & I got to take her to brunch again which has become our tradition; I think this is year number 6. We did the all-you-can-eat bruch at the LaQuinta Inn in Tacoma. It was delicious as usual. Tomi & I didn’t get to spend any time with either of our children that are local because they had better things to do apparently but no love lost…maybe a little disappointment though.
Mother's Day 2011
Mother’s Day 2011

This is from our brunch a couple years back. We always take a picture together whenever we get together. I love having the memories and being able to look back and see how we’ve changed although it doesn’t seem like my mom ages at all. I am thankful to have those genes.
Out on the town!
Out on the town!

As I am getting older, I really appreciate the time that I get to spend with my mom because I know that she won’t be around forever. I love the fact that I have so many great memories of time with my mother. She has made sure that I knew that the world is bigger than my neighborhood. She did her best to make sure that I was ready for the world. I think she did an AMAZING job if I do say so myself.