Here lately, it seems that I am always a day behind (at least). I blame the fact that I no longer have the structure of a job to keep me in check. There is nothing to keep me on schedule. I have been late mailing birthday cards and other sentiments and I pretty much have no social life anymore.
Anyway, I’m a day late but here is my list for February…
1.) Birthdays! My sister (Feb 21st) and my dad (Feb 27th) both celebrated birthdays. Also, our oldest daughter, Veronica and my oldest nephew. Plus countless other cousins and friends celebrated birthdays in February.
2.) This hottie! My wife is everything to me.
3.) No explanation needed…
4.) Discovering Global Couture because Lord knows I love me some cute accessories. I also love supporting a small, black-owned business.
5.) My hairdresser!
Mimi is the business and she always makes sure my hair is healthy and cute. I like to change it up!
6.) My daughter and my mommy! Because they live 4hrs away, I don’t get to see them as often as I would like so every opportunity is a blessing.
7.) My smile! There was definitely a few rough patches but I made it through and I’m still able to smile.
8.) Valentine’s Day! This was the first time in 11+ years that we actually went out for this particular day. We just don’t get into it. My wife planned the whole thing which is saying a lot because she is not really a romance kinda chick. She bought me fancy under things, took me to an amazing dinner and then we went dancing. I had a blast!
9.) New life! I got a new, baby cousin on the 22nd. Her name is Meleeha Janae and she is beautiful. Congrats to CJ & Jazmine, the new parents! Also, congrats to my cousin Steph (Jazz’s mom), the new grandma!
10.) Weight loss! I am -60lbs than I was at this time last year and that feels AMAZING!
I try to do these at the end of the month as a reminder to be thankful and take time to find the blessings in my day-to-day life. I was in the hospital so I’m a little bit late. Better late than never, right? January was a pretty good month and a great beginning to 2015.
1.) My baby girl turned 24 on Jan. 23rd.
2.) My wife…just because she’s awesome
3.) A good cup of coffee. I’ve found a new appreciation for my morning cup. My afternoon cup. And sometimes, my night time cup.
4.) My fur baby, Hayley. She keeps me company during the day.
5.) Dancing out the stress. There is nothing I enjoy more than cranking up some music and gettin’ down with my bad self. My go to jam…Electric Lady by Janelle Monaé
6.) Inspiration in book form. This book allows me to study my bible and get inspired using stories that ‘real’ women can relate to.
Twenty-four years ago on January 23, at 12:05am, a 14 year old girl gave birth to a little 8lb 9oz butterball of a baby girl with a head full of soft, curly hair.
I didn’t know then that my life was changed forever.
We grew up and learned to navigate life together.
Times weren’t always easy but I tried to make sure she always knew she was special and loved. I always wanted to make sure she laughed more than she cried and knew more joy than pain.
Through it all, we’ve survived and thrived.
We’ve laughed together, cried together, prayed together and fought together. Your smile has gotten me through a lot of hard days.
I’ve been blessed to see 38 years on this earth so far and the best part has been the 24 years I’ve had the privilege of being your mom.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY BABY GIRL!
I usually do this on the last day of the month but we were traveling and I had no service so here we are on the 1st. This has been a busy time and I have an abundance of things to be thankful for so here we go…
1.) Faith – God has kept me and continues to keep me and my family. Without faith, it would be difficult to get up everyday.
2.) Tomi – My wife is AMAZING! Since I’ve been unemployed, she has taken up the slack without any complaints. I know that having all of the financial responsibility thrust upon your shoulders can be quite the heavy load to bare but she carries it as though it ‘weighs’ nothing. I am so thankful to her and for her.
3.) Friends – There aren’t many people who can say they have friendships that have spanned two decades. I have several! My 20-yr high school reunion was awesome evidence of that.
4.) Being a granny – I’ve gotten to spend quite a bit of time with my Jaydie Bug lately. She is a pure joy! I wish I could spend more time with my California grandbabies; Desmond Jr. (Scooter), Da’Liyah and De’Zha. Perhaps we’ll plan a trip.
5.) Music – Helping me feel my feels!
6.) Reading – Being unemployed brings lots of spare time for reading. I am thankful for my nook and my library card.
7.) Nature – God definitely puts on some amazing shows and I am thankful to get to experience them.
8.) Concerts – My honey took me to see Montgomery Gentry & John Michael Montgomery at the fair. AMAZING! She’s a country music fan now.
9.) Bundles of joy – possibly being the care provider for this little one.
10.) Life – Regardless of the ups and downs, I am thankful for every day.
It’s the last day of the month. It has been a difficult 31 days but I am thankful to have made it through.
1.) Being unemployed – Was it planned? No. I just thank God that my spouse is able to support us. It has taken a bit of adjustment because I do like to shop but I am blessed. We are blessed.
2.) My Nook and my library card – I have been reading a lot more since I have not been working. I appreciate being able to check out books electronically as well as feeling the weight of a traditional book.
3.) Friends – New ones, those that have been staying in touch though we no longer work together, those that I’ve had for years and those that I consider family. I appreciate them all.
4.) Ideal Protein – Tomi and I are both doing well on the program. Dropping pounds like crazy!
5.) Wifi – It is so nice to have internet service at home. I really appreciate being able to stay in my underwear and search the interwebs if I choose instead of having to search it out in coffee shops and restaurants.
This has been an amazing month in so many ways. It turns out that the last day of the month would prove to be the most eventful and hurtful and confusing day that I have had in quite some time.
I got up early in the morning and prepared for work, packed up my lunch and headed out the door for what was supposed to be my first day back after vacation. Well my boss, Sarah, met me at the door at 10 minutes till 7 a.m. and asked me to follow her to her office at which time I was informed that’s my employment was being discontinued and if I didn’t have any questions for her then I needed to go collect my things and leave.
I was angry, hurt and confused but I went and started collecting my pictures from my desk. I cried as I was doing so because the pictures brought back memories of friendships that had been forged and memories that we’ve created and I felt so sad.
I took a day to wallow but the whole point of this exercise was to be able to find the blessing. I am blessed to have a supportive and understanding wife who said not to worry about trying to find a job. I am blessed to live in a state that recognizes the marriage between my wife and I which allows me to be able to still have health insurance in spite of the fact that I am now unemployed. Thank you Jesus! I am blessed to have come out of this situation with people that I can truly call friends and who I know will remain in contact with me though we are no longer coworkers. More than anything, I am blessed to still be me.
Today’s a new day and there is no sunshine.
There’s nothing but clouds and it’s dark in my heart and it feels like a cold night.
Today’s a new day, but where are my blue skies? Where is the love and the joy that you promised me? Tell me it’s alright.
I almost gave up but a power that I can’t explain fell from heaven like a shower and now…
Even though I hurt I smile.
I know God is working so I smile.
Even though I’ve been here for a while, I smile.
Its so hard to look up when you’ve been down.
Sure would hate to see you give up now.
You look so much better when you smile; so smile.
“Not flesh of my flesh, nor bone of my bone. Nevertheless, still my own.” – Unknown
These are my children. Though birthed by my wife, they are mine. I couldn’t love them more if I had given them life. They are wonderful and loving and I am blessed to have them in my life. Plus, they have given me grandbabies! I am so grateful for my family.
My biggest blessing! My baby girl JaLisa. We grew up together; I had her when I was 14. There have been two times in her life where I sat in the hospital by her bedside praying for God not to take her from me; at birth and at 15yrs of age. She made 23 this year and I thank God for her. She has been and is a true blessing.