LIST YOUR FAVORITE QUOTES.
“If I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies for me and eaten alive.” – Audre Lorde
“Sometimes I feel discriminated against, but it does not make me angry. It merely astonishes me. How can any deny themselves the pleasure of my company? It’s beyond me.” – Zora Neale Hurston
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” – Maya Angelou
“A crown, if it hurts us, is not worth wearing.” – Pearl Bailey
“I will not have my life narrowed down. I will not bow down to somebody else’s whim or to someone else’s ignorance.” = bell hooks
“Don’t wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get you’ve got to make yourself.” – Alice Walker
“No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow.” – Alice Walker
“Deal with yourself as an individual worthy of respect, and make everyone else deal with you the same way.” – Nikki Giovanni
“Give light and people will find the way.” – Ella Baker
TAKE ACTION: What do your favorite quotes have in common? Choose one qualitu or theme to incorporate into your daily life this week.
LIST ALL OF THE PEOPLE WHO BRIGHTEN YOUR DAY…
There really are too many to name but I will give a few…
- My Parents
- My Children
- My grandchildren
- My Siblings
- My nieces and nephews
- My church family
- My friends
TAKE ACTION: Write a sweet note to or do something thoughtful for one or some of these people who make your life easier, lighter and happier.
LIST THE WAYS YOU LOVE TO HAVE FUN.
- Spending time with family and friends
- Crafting and creating
- Going to the movies
TAKE ACTION: Plan to integrate something fun into every day this week. We can all settle into routines very easily, so why not break the routine of boredom and start a routine of fun?
Although I have not been keeping up on my blogging, I have been keeping up with my lists. Some of the lists are very easy to complete. Others can be as easy or as involved as you choose to make them. There have definitely been some where I’ve had to reel myself in so that I don’t spend FOREVER on one list.
Here we go…
LIST WHAT YOU WOULD LIKE YOUR LIFE TO LOOK LIKE IN TEN YEARS.
Well, that’s not hard at all (insert sarcasm font). I decided to be very straightforward with my list and not expound too much.
- I would like to own my own home
- I would like to be ‘working’ my own business; be my own boss
- I would like to travel with my wife
- I would like my wife to be retired
- I would like to be at least 250lbs lighter
TAKE ACTION: What are some small steps you can take right now to make one of your dreams happen in the future?
List your favorite characters from books, movies, etc.
All of my favorites are women who are strong in their vulnerability and simple in their complexity.
1.) Janie Crawford from Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston
2.) Mercy Thompson from a series of books by Patricia Briggs
3.) Lauren Oya Olamina from Parable Of The Sower by Octavia E. Butler
4.) Tamara Hayle from a series of books by Valerie Wilson Wesley
5.) Tracy Ellison from Flyy Girl by Omar Tyree
6.) Cleo played by Dana Owens (Queen Latifah) in the movie Set It Off
7.) Savannah Jackson played by Whitney Houston in the movie Waiting To Exhale
8.) Bernadine Harris played by Angela Bassett in the movie Waiting To Exhale
9.) Gloria Matthews played by Loretta Devine in the movie Waiting To Exhale
10.) Robin Stokes played by Lela Rochon in the movie Waiting To Exhale
Take Action: Find a common personality trait between your favorite characters. What is one character trait that you admire in your favorite characters that you can work towards this week?
I decided to take a cue from my girl Kristi over at Sew Right Journals and make a specific, workable list of things I plan to accomplish in 2015. I figure if I am specific and I share, the more accountability I’ll have.
I found a book to help me with my goal of daily journaling and weekly blogging I’m already a week behind…LOL!). It’s called The 52 Lists Project: A Year of Weekly Journaling Inspiration by Moorea Seal.
My plan is that each week, I will share the list prompt with you and some of my list. At the bottom of each list is a call to ‘Take Action’ and I will share that too. Alright? Ready? Here we go…
The 52 Lists Project: List 1
List your goals and dreams for this year…
1.) Less social media
– no social media during my work hours (8a-5p) Mon – Fri
– no social media at all on Sunday
2.) Create a schedule (consistency)
– consistent wake/bed time
– pack my lunch for work and lay out my clothes the night before
3.) Read at least one book per month
4.) Go to church at least 2x/mo
– bible study counts
– live stream counts
– Get at least one passport stamp
6.) Journal daily & blog weekly
7.) 30 min of aerobic exercise 3x/weekly.
8.) Create a website for my business and try to book at least 6 weddings this year.
9.) Plan a girls night every other month to stay connected with my friends.
10.) Plan a night out alone once a month.
Take Action: what is the first step toward achieving your biggest goal? Pick one thing you can do this week to get started!
I’ll be back next week!
It’s been a while since I posted or even felt like it. Life was happening around me but at some point, I stopped participating. I don’t mean to sound dramatic like I was going to end it all or anything like that. Never that. I just stopped. I got up every day but hardly ever got dressed. I just hung around in my lounging gear (yoga pants and a T-shirt) and napped the day away. And forget personal grooming like eyebrows and shaving and makeup. Too much work. I left the house but only so my wife didn’t worry. I can’t say I was feeling bad; or feeling anything for that matter.I woke up one day and realized that I hadn’t been taking my meds or anything. I just…fell off. I gained back 20lbs of the weight I lost because I had pretty much given up on my Ideal Protein program as well. Even though I was weighing in and buying food every week. I woke up and ‘snapped’ out of the stupor I had been walking around in, dusted myself off and started the journey back to me.
First thing I did was go get my hair done. Then, I got my eyebrows waxed and got a mani/pedi. I started working again, at a job I really like, so I’m getting up every day and even ‘putting on a face’. Sometimes I don’t just because I want to sleep longer but I do more often then not.
Next, I made appointments with my medical and mental health providers to discuss and refill my meds. Idownloaded a phone app so I could enter my meds and track when I’m supposed to take my meds.
Then, I talked with my Ideal Protein coach, set a few short term goals and came up with a plan to get back on track with my weight loss plan. I am already feeling better and I am ready for the world. I’m not deluded that this is going to be easy but I’m open to the journey so here I go.