Category Archives: Musings

Bring On The Babies

I became a mommy to another fur baby this past weekend.
Meet Rocki!

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I will give you a moment to take in all of this cuteness. It can be a lot all at once.

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#puppylove Look at that face!

She’s a bit younger than we thought (6wks) and wakes up every couple hours like A baby which is a lot for us. She is a sweet and very spirited little thing.
My big girl, Hayley (6yr old Shih Tzu) is not a huge fan.

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Hayley

She doesn’t try to hurt her, she just avoids her like the plague. It probably doesn’t help that Rocki tried to nurse on Hayley her first night here. LOL!
She has figured out that the puppy can’t climb so she heads for higher ground whenever we put the puppy on the floor.
I’m sure it will get better once the puppy is older and annoying.
In the meantime, here is more cuteness.

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She plays really hard for about 15 minutes and then knocks out for a couple of hours. Totally adorable!

Just Keep Swimming…

“Effort only fully releases its reward after a person refuses to quit.” Napoleon Hill

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Feeling determined...

I took this selfie the other day while st my Ideal Protein weigh-in/ coaching appointment.
Its been a tough couple of weeks and my coach, Eva, and I have been working on getting me over this plateau I’ve hit. Honestly, I got a little bored. I was tired of eating the same shit! Eva explained that even though I was having gains of a few pounds (from cheating), it is important to keep sticking to the plan and keep coming to my weekly appointments. We remixed my menu a bit and got Tomi back on board and I think I am headed in the right direction again. Most importantly, no matter how tempted I was, I didn’t quit.

10 Things I’m Loving Right Now: January Edition

I try to do these at the end of the month as a reminder to be thankful and take time to find the blessings in my day-to-day life. I was in the hospital so I’m a little bit late. Better late than never, right? January was a pretty good month and a great beginning to 2015.

1.) My baby girl turned 24 on Jan. 23rd.

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2.) My wife…just because she’s awesome

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3.) A good cup of coffee. I’ve found a new appreciation for my morning cup. My afternoon cup. And sometimes, my night time cup.

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4.) My fur baby, Hayley. She keeps me company during the day.

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5.) Dancing out the stress. There is nothing I enjoy more than cranking up some music and gettin’ down with my bad self. My go to jam…Electric Lady by Janelle Monaé

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6.) Inspiration in book form. This book allows me to study my bible and get inspired using stories that ‘real’ women can relate to.

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7.) Discovering a new source for great accessories at Global Couture.

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8.) Selma (film)

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9.) My parents. I appreciate every day that I am blessed to have them here.

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10.) My Grandma. January 21st would have been her 79th birthday. I am thankful for the years I had her here to love, nurture, teach and guide me and my daughter. I miss her everyday.

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10 Things 2015 Will Bring For Me: Faith Over Fear

I stopped making new year resolutions years ago. I didn’t really think about why until recently. I had given up hope, out of fear of trying and failing, that my life would ever be different. I would always be fat. I would never start my business. I would never write my book. I would never try. I always talked myself out of trying with thoughts like ‘You don’t have money for that’ or ‘You don’t have a degree’.
For a long time, I chalked it up to being lazy. Then, God started placing things in my path that helped me realize that my lack of action has been based on fear and self-doubt. Fear of flying. Fear of success. Fear of failure. Fear of being told “no”. Then God started placing things in my path that told me my faith needs to be bigger. I need to move in faith and what I need will come. Failure and hearing “no” means I’m trying; ACTION!
I have decided that this is the year that I get out of my own way.
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This is going to be a year of action for me. A year that I will accomplish some goals; take action on the plans I’ve previously been too afraid to pursue.

1. I am going to complete my business plan, get my business license, create my business website and get started as an entrepreneur.
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2. One of my strengths is as a caregiver. I enjoy doing for others. It makes me feel good. I will spend more time caring for myself.
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3. I am going to take more time to nurture my friendships.
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4. I am going to continue to show my body how much I love and treasure it by making healthy choices.
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5. I will make sure that love is a verb in my marriage. My wife means the world to me and I plan to work hard to make sure she knows it.
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6. I will take control of what we eat by cooking at home more and eating out less.
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7. I will make time to write; journaling, poetry and most importantly, start my book.
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8. I will spend more time on a microphone. I love to sing and I love to talk. I’ve always wanted to do session work in a studio and voiceover/ voice acting work but allowed my fear to hold me back. NO MORE!
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9. I will cut the clutter; physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Clutter can block your clarity and block your blessings. I’ve been getting rid of clothes and shoes I haven’t/ can’t wear. I’ve been getting rid of old mail, photos and papers that hold no importance. I’ve been removing toxic people from my life. I’ve have been getting rid of thoughts and ideas that have held me bound.
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10. I will live!
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2015 is going to be a stellar year! I’ll keep you posted.

Looking Back: 10 Things I Lived and Learned In My 2014

This was a particularly trying year. I can’t say that it was all bad but there were definitely some very deep valleys to go along with the peaks. I am thankful that I was here for the turmoil and the triumphs. I have learned a lot about myself over the last twelve months; some hard truths have come to the light. Through it all, I am grateful to God for seeing me through another year.
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1. I have lost 50+ lbs. this year. I haven’t felt this good in a long time. I still have quite a way to go in reaching my ultimate goal but I am well on my way. I’ve learned that being prepared will help to stop you from breaking away from your healthy eating routine.
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2. I went to my 20-yr highschool reunion. I can tell you that I was a true gleek. I knew and was friends with lots of people but all of my closest friends were in choir. I learned that nothing makes you feel older than realizing you’ve been out of school for twenty years. Just saying that gave me achy joints.
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3. I got to go to my first Seattle Mariners game. We had great seats that were right on the third base line. Also, it was Felix Hernandez bobblehead night. I learned that baseball fans are some of the happiest people on earth.
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4. We went to New Orleans for our birthday this year. We had an amazing time, ate some of the most delicious food I ever had and my wife got to show me where she grew up. I can’t wait to go back! I learned that you need comfy walking shoes whether they match your outfits or not.
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5. I lost my job. That is a very humbling experience. I learned that you should never get too comfortable. It also taught me that it is alright to feel your feelings but don’t wallow. Regroup and make a plan.
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6. I had corneal transplant surgery. Another very humbling experience. You are very dependent for a few days and that can be difficult. I learned that people can be very helpful…if you allow them to.
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7. Maya Angelou passed away. A woman who touched a nation. I love to read and hers was the first body of work I experienced as a young girl that was by an author that looked like me. I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings is the first book I read by her. My favorite quote also came from her. “I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.”
I learned that living your best life, being true to yourself and kind to your fellow man is a beautiful way to live.
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8. We went to see Lalah Hathaway at Dimitrou’s Jazz Alley…for the 2nd time. This time, she was with Ruben Studdard. It was an amazing show.

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9. We celebrated our 1-yr wedding anniversary (11 yrs. together). Tomi is truly the mate that was created for me. Loving her is like food to my soul. I’ve learned that love changes; its work. But there is nothing, no situation, that love can’t conquer. We are strong individually but together, we are unstoppable.

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10. My baby girl got her first place. She also got engaged. I am overwhelmed with emotions over it all. She’s always been/ will be my baby. Now, I see her as a woman and I am not ready.

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All in all, 2014 has been a year of growth. I look forward to 2015 as a year to walk in the power of the lessons I’ve learned. I bid a fond farewell to 2014 and welcome the new year with open arms. Most importantly, I’m choosing to live by choice and make life happen instead of allowing life to happen to me?
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I Wanna Be Like…Mommy

Recently, I watched a clip from when Janelle Monae was on The Queen Latifa Show. It was beautiful to see her surprise her biggest fan on the show. What affected me most was Janelle being overcome with emotion at the idea that “little black girls would want to look like me”. Are you kidding me? There wasn’t a dry eye in the house.
My thoughts went to my daughter and who she looked up to and emulated as a child. My baby was a child of the ’90s/ ’00s and was a huge fan of Taina, Hillary Duff, Raven-Symoné and lots of other age-appropriate things. She wanted to be a Cheetah Girl and loved reading Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants..
But what about her personality? Her morals? What was/ is she presenting to the world? Where is she getting those things from? Oh shit! I should be her example for those things. I freaked out thinking back on all the times that I’m sure I got it all wrong; this whole mom thing. Deep breath…in through the nose, out through the mouth.
After I calmed down, I realized a few things. I did my best. I was a mom at 14 so I know I stumbled along the way but I had my grandmother, mom and aunts to help guide me. I was there. I made mistakes but I was there; volunteering at school, helping her through homework and heartbreak. I taught her to love her light-brown skin as part of the beautiful spectrum of little black girls.

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I taught her to love her natural hair in all its wooly beauty. She’s growing dreads right now.
I taught her to love

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and value herself.

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And you know what?
My little black girl loves music, singing and dancing…just like me.

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My little black girl loves books…just like me.
When I asked friends and family who know us both they say that my little black girl is sweet, funny, articulate, kind, giving and gorgeous…just like me.
My little black girl (although she’s a woman now) likes Beyoncé, Erykah Badu and Jill Scott but regardless of all the other influences, she’s always wanted to be like…Mommy.

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It Begins…

Earlier this year, I became an ordained minister. It is a non-denominational affiliation that I acquired mainly to be able to perform weddings but I can also preside over funerals/ burials or baptisms.
I received my credentials and have basically been sitting on them. I’ve had a lot going on personally and am now getting to the point where I have the time to work on my business plan and my business. My business will be a sole proprietorship where I will be a wedding officiant as well as offering services as a wedding singer.
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This is where I will begin storing my ceremony ideas. When I find readings and blurbs that speak to me, I write them down. Of course, there will be copies backed up on my laptop but I have always been a fan of pen to paper.
I am also working on website ideas and other marketing opportunities. Since it is just me, I don’t want to expand too quickly but I definitely see myself expanding and having a partner or maybe employees. There is a lot to consider and I am definitely just in the planning stages right now but I am SUPER excited.