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New Year, Same Me (Which Is Cool Because Most Days, I Think I’m Pretty Dope)…

Well, it only took me half of the month to catch up on life enough to complete my first blog post of the year. So much for starting the year with a consistent weekly post. Sheesh!! Anyway, let me get you all caught up on the life and times of me.

I brought in the new year with my honey and some friends and doing what I love to do…singing. We went originally to watch the show and Micah and Cat invited me up to join them on a couple of numbers. It was a blast!! Good company, good wine, good food and great memories.

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Cat, Sara, Micah, Me, Tomi
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In my zone

As of last Friday (my weigh-in day), I am down 70lbs since this whole weight loss thing started (down 4lbs for the week). Physically, I feel fantastic. I can move around without pain and without getting winded. I had been on muscle relaxers for chronic back pain for years and I haven’t taken them since surgery day. I can climb up and down the stairs in my house without having to climb on hands and knees like a toddler. My wife and I can go on walks with the dogs. We can go out dancing and instead of just part of a song, I dance through several songs and only have to sit down because a song comes on that I don’t like. I am enjoying the new found freedom that losing weight has afforded me.

I do have to say that extreme weight loss is a blessing and a curse. It has been a mental test getting use to my body as it changes. There are parts of me that hang that didn’t use to. My skin feels different to me, my clothes fit differently. My skin is changing, my hair is changing. It’s definitely interesting getting to know myself all over again. I don’t always like how I look with or without clothes. Some days are definitely better than others but I am learning and coping as I go.

I’m learning a few things…

Working out needs to be a priority. It helps you have more effective weight loss and helps you to gain muscle while you are losing weight. I’m getting more consistent with workouts but it is still my least favorite thing to do.

It is super important to take care of yourself mentally. Make time to pray, meditate, journal and pamper yourself. All the change is a lot mentally so you do not want to neglect your self-care; whatever that looks like for you.

Get use to never eating a hot meal again. That sounds weird but I honestly have not had a hot meal since I had surgery. The reality is that you just can’t eat it fast enough. The one thing this surgery forces you to do is slow down. You have to chew more because you don’t want to swallow big chunks (even of soft food). Believe it or not, you will get use to it.

Surround yourself with positive people who want to see you succeed. They don’t have to be on a weight loss journey (although you should have a few of those people in your life). Just make sure that they are not the people who are constantly offering you all the junk food and starchy goodness. Make sure they are people who are willing to listen to the occasional rant about ill-fitting clothing and a not-so-delicious new food. Most importanly, they need to be good cheerleaders who are willing to encrourage and slap that muffin out of your hand if need be. Someone willing to go on a walk with you and your dogs or offer alternatives for getting together other than eating and drinking (crafting dates, walking dates, mani/pedi dates).

Now, we are all caught up and ready to get back to our regularly scheduled program. I will be back on Friday with my weekly weigh-in

 

Late Post: Happy Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day weekend was pretty amazing. One our granddaughters, Jayden, celebrated her golden birthday; She turned 8 on the 8th. We went to see her in a musical and then we all went out to dinner.

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Then, there was our annual Mother’s Day brunch which also happened to fall on the 26th birthday of our 2nd youngest daughter, Keely. We ate, we laughed and enjoyed ourselves. It was a  wonderful time as usual and I’m already looking forward to next year.

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Just Call Me Granny

One of our grand babies came to stay with us for her Spring Break.
We picked her up last weekend and got to play Easter Bunny.
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Then we went to Twig’s for brunch and went to see the Cinderella movie.
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Granny T & Jayden

Granny T worked all week so JayDBug and I did lots of hanging out. We painted pottery and hung at the library and did a bit of sidewalk art.
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To end our week, we went to Triple Play in Hayden, ID and played until we were exhausted. We played at the indoor water park, arcade, mini golf, laser tag and bowling.
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We had an amazing time but I feel like I could sleep for a week.
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You Lose A Few…

-4.1lbs to be exact! I’m back on track and back to losing weight. I had to regroup and get my mind right. I was feeling bored and deprived and I just needed a break.
Each week when I would go for my weigh-in and show a gain, I felt embarrassed and disappointed in myself. I knew, however, that if I stopped going altogether, even for just a couple of weeks, I would never go back.
I am definitely not anywhere close to my goal but I am on my way. I’m not happy with my outer appearance but on the inside, I feel better than I have in years. Some days are harder than others but I just surround myself with affirmations and positivity and smile on the outside even if I don’t necessarily feel it at the time.
One of our granddaughters is staying with us this week and on Easter, she wanted to take a picture of her grannies. She’s always telling me that she loves my outfits and shoes, my hair and accessories. Hanging with her is good for my self esteem.

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Easter 2015

I’m very insecure about my physical appearance so I usually don’t do full body photos but I felt good sharing this one. I was surrounded by my loved ones. My wife has been my biggest cheerleader through this process and most importantly, she loves me without condition; even when I feel I am unable to love myself.

Looking Back: 10 Things I Lived and Learned In My 2014

This was a particularly trying year. I can’t say that it was all bad but there were definitely some very deep valleys to go along with the peaks. I am thankful that I was here for the turmoil and the triumphs. I have learned a lot about myself over the last twelve months; some hard truths have come to the light. Through it all, I am grateful to God for seeing me through another year.
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1. I have lost 50+ lbs. this year. I haven’t felt this good in a long time. I still have quite a way to go in reaching my ultimate goal but I am well on my way. I’ve learned that being prepared will help to stop you from breaking away from your healthy eating routine.
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2. I went to my 20-yr highschool reunion. I can tell you that I was a true gleek. I knew and was friends with lots of people but all of my closest friends were in choir. I learned that nothing makes you feel older than realizing you’ve been out of school for twenty years. Just saying that gave me achy joints.
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3. I got to go to my first Seattle Mariners game. We had great seats that were right on the third base line. Also, it was Felix Hernandez bobblehead night. I learned that baseball fans are some of the happiest people on earth.
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4. We went to New Orleans for our birthday this year. We had an amazing time, ate some of the most delicious food I ever had and my wife got to show me where she grew up. I can’t wait to go back! I learned that you need comfy walking shoes whether they match your outfits or not.
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5. I lost my job. That is a very humbling experience. I learned that you should never get too comfortable. It also taught me that it is alright to feel your feelings but don’t wallow. Regroup and make a plan.
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6. I had corneal transplant surgery. Another very humbling experience. You are very dependent for a few days and that can be difficult. I learned that people can be very helpful…if you allow them to.
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7. Maya Angelou passed away. A woman who touched a nation. I love to read and hers was the first body of work I experienced as a young girl that was by an author that looked like me. I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings is the first book I read by her. My favorite quote also came from her. “I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.”
I learned that living your best life, being true to yourself and kind to your fellow man is a beautiful way to live.
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8. We went to see Lalah Hathaway at Dimitrou’s Jazz Alley…for the 2nd time. This time, she was with Ruben Studdard. It was an amazing show.

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9. We celebrated our 1-yr wedding anniversary (11 yrs. together). Tomi is truly the mate that was created for me. Loving her is like food to my soul. I’ve learned that love changes; its work. But there is nothing, no situation, that love can’t conquer. We are strong individually but together, we are unstoppable.

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10. My baby girl got her first place. She also got engaged. I am overwhelmed with emotions over it all. She’s always been/ will be my baby. Now, I see her as a woman and I am not ready.

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All in all, 2014 has been a year of growth. I look forward to 2015 as a year to walk in the power of the lessons I’ve learned. I bid a fond farewell to 2014 and welcome the new year with open arms. Most importantly, I’m choosing to live by choice and make life happen instead of allowing life to happen to me?
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A Month Of Blessings – Day 15

My Daddy!

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Tom L Mustin. He is awesome because he chose both my mom and me. I thank God for him and I am so blessed because even when it was uncomfortable, my dad has ALWAYS been there for me. He taught me to be tough, fair, honest and generous. I love him to the moon and back.

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My brother Rojay & his gorgeous wife Kim

Also, Happy Father’s Day to my brother, Rojay.

I’m Hanging In There…

After my first week back on Weight Watchers, I fell off. I got a bit freaked out by my level of success if you can believe that. I didn’t start eating all crazy or anything, I just fell off on my tracking and working out. I gained a pound the next week. Then, I got sick which caused me to stop working out at all. Then, I fell off on good habits like eating breakfast everyday and planning healthy snacks and lunches. I gained 4lbs that week.
I joined the Stuffing Smackdown Challenge at work. It’s a.challenge that is supposed to discourage overeating during the holiday season. You weigh in each week and are entered into a drawing each week that you maintain or lose weight. After the first week, I was down 2lbs. This caused me to get a bit over-confident…the next week, I gained 5lbs. I freaked out a bit. I came home, ate my feelings and then got over it. This was my first week back to following my Weight Watchers plan properly. I am down 7.8lbs this week!
I’m going to keep on keeping on. I am just 10lbs away from my first weigh loss goal which is 5% of my starting weight. My reward for my first goal will be a 60-minute deep tissue massage. Plus, for every pound I lose, a dollar goes into my ‘New Wardrobe Fund’ for replacing clothing items as I lose weight.
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